Hi I am Sharda

Dutch, born in Surinam, grew up in Holland, currently residing in Spain with husband Cor de Haan 

Growing up in a large family is not always easy. In my childhood and throughout my youth I wanted to be as inconspicuous as possible; I stayed in the background and was quiet. Only later did I discover that this silence was purely for self-protection. I went through it all; the feeling of not being good enough, of being rejected and of always having to push myself to the limit. Subconsciously I wanted to leave home early and dreamed of a life that resembled freedom.

It wasn’t until I left home and moved in with my boyfriend that I experienced another life, a life of trust, love and caring. Therapy revealed that I had hidden a very large part of my youth away and that I did not consider myself worthy. I had difficulty setting boundaries and became a pleaser and protector.

Through studies, mentoring, NLP and coaching I gained more confidence. It was alarming yet liberating to realize that I was limiting myself. These limiting believes in combination with my busy life caused me a lot of stress, worries and anxiety. 

At my late 40s, I found myself feeling mentally terrible, even though I was living a healthy lifestyle. I struggled with my own identity tremendously. At that time also my job at a commercial company was not easy to handle, which was obviously something I was responsible for. I decided to quit and take some time out. This welcoming time out was my next study on Yoga.